The question of "What are you Worth"? Seems to be a lot of people have struggled with answering during therapeutic sessions. It's a question which has many of them rethinking values, morals, and expectations of them-self. Through the sessions it becomes apparent to them that their self-worth is largely based on cultural and social expectations. They need to be wealthy and successful in the eyes of their family, friends, and peers. Many of them are extremely dissatisfied with living, not being able to live up to everyone's expectation of themselves and even more depressed on not being able to live up to their own expectations of self. So ... how are you suppose to find out what your worth?
During my work with patients suffering from eating disorders, anxiety, perfectionism, and other mood disorders this is an area worth exploring during the first stages of figuring out "what are your hopes for therapy"? I have found during the process of self-worth, it tells a story of childhood experiences leaving a lasting mark into the adult present. Exploring values, which is always an eye opener to how one really puts their personal needs in order. Surprisingly, the patients were able to draw out many other life attributes to achieve greater life satisfaction than wealth or success. For an example, Creativity to be a higher spectrum on values scale than beauty. Which is a great surprise when working with body image issues. Feelings of unworthiness begin to emerge as patients discover their true values. As they are living up to societal values and not their own. Their own fears of feeling unworthiness to love them-self, express themselves, and live life to their own satisfaction becomes in the present moment. Knowing what values are foremost important to the values that have never been explored to the values that are consuming all of their time. Exploring and working on how to spend more energy on improving self-worth than decreasing it. I hope my readers will start exploring on their own by asking yourself, "What are you Worth"?